5 years ago, during New York Fashion Week, Avenue Plus Size Clothing Shop held a runway show for customers at its Third Avenue store to showcase the upcoming collection. The models were all approximately size 12/14 which prompted a woman, standing next to me, to say aloud what I was thinking: “I wanna see what those clothes… Continue reading On a Body Like Mine
When celebrities… or even regular, every day people… lose weight, it becomes a news-worthy event. Media outlets rush to get the “secrets” and “tips” and gush over how so-and-so looks “amazing” and is “an inspiration” after dropping X amount of pounds. What’s ironic is how those same media outlets will post body positive stories about… Continue reading And in Other News…
As some of you know, I’ve had this blog for a few years. Apparently it’s been under the radar because I’ve had no negative comments… unless you count the “but being fat is unhealthy!” responses. I don’t because they’ve been sincere and respectful even though my health is no one’s business except mine and my… Continue reading Don’t Feed the Trolls
This “F-U” goes out to my (now former) cardiologist, who I will refer to as Dr. AM. For the record, I was referred to him due to occasional shortness of breath which also happens to be a side effect of medication I was taking. I should mention that he has a very pleasant Spanish accent.… Continue reading Stress (Test) and Fat Shaming
This past Saturday I spent the night at a local hospital’s sleep center for a study because it’s been a long time since I’ve had a good night’s rest. My doctor wanted to know whether I have sleep apnea, a disorder in which one’s breathing stops or becomes shallow while asleep. That’s where I met… Continue reading Concern Trolling Is Not Your Job
Last week I Heart My Body, a Facebook page, posted a video showing 3 fat women, including Marcy Cruz from Fearlessly Just Me, as they faced their insecurities and fears to try on a 2-piece swimsuit. I loved Marcy’s double take when she looked at herself in the mirror and her declaration “I look amazing!”.… Continue reading Zoning Out
If, like me, you’re a fan of the Harry Potter books and movies you’ll remember how Voldemort was initially referred to as “He Who Must Not Be Named”. However, Professor Dumbledore encouraged Harry to “always use the proper name for things. Fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself.” That quote has come… Continue reading Don’t #DropThePlus
So this happened today: On my way to work, a man yelled at me “Holy shit, you’re so FAT!” I smiled at him and replied “Yes, I am and thank you for noticing. You’re so sweet!” My reaction was apparently not what he expected because he appeared confused and muttered something that sounded like “buy… Continue reading Not Without My Consent
Some plus size clothing designers and merchants haven’t caught on yet. We fat ladies want to see clothes modeled on bodies like ours. I want to see how a dress will look on my short apple frame or whether a swim suit has enough to cover my saggy big boobs and belly. When Lane Bryant… Continue reading Cellulite, Bellies and Boobs… Oh Yes!!!
Recently Madame Noire Magazine asked the question WHY IS MELISSA MCCARTHY THE FACE OF BODY POSITIVITY AND NOT GABOUREY SIDIBE? It’s a fair question and I’m going to hazard my own guess. Melissa’s good fatty to Gabourey’s unapologetic fatty makes for better Hollywood stories. Society and the media love fat people as long as they’re… Continue reading Why Isn’t Gabourey Sidibe the Face of Body Positivity?