A couple of weeks ago, I first watched the video to “All About That Bass”, by Meghan Trainor, which is supposed to be the feel-good, body positive anthem of the summer:
Meghan is adorable as is her voice. The beat is catchy and makes me want to get up and “shake it, shake it like I’m supposed to do” especially after watching that big, young man gleefully dance and do a split.
Then I listened to the words. Even though Meghan affirms that “every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top” it apparently only applies to big girls, not the “skinny bitches”, “stick-figure, silicone Barbie dolls” or women who don’t have “a little more booty to hold at night”.
How is that body positive when it’s not inclusive of all bodies? Why is it that some women can’t feel better about themselves unless they’re knocking the ones that don’t look like them?
I personally am tired of memes, phrases and sayings that glorify big bodies like mine at the expense of thin women. Here’s a sample:
When fat people demand acceptance and respect but don’t give the same to those who are slender, it’s hypocritical, shameful and even bullying. When a fat woman proclaims that “real women have curves” or “real men prefer meat and only dogs go for bones”, it’s not the declaration of someone who loves what she sees in the mirror. A truly confident woman acknowledges that one’s size or physical preference doesn’t make them any more or less “real”. She can appreciate the beauty in all sizes and doesn’t have to insult another woman to feel better about her own.
So, as cute and catchy as it is, there should be less songs like “All About That Bass” and more like India.Arie’s “Video”
Or “Who Says” by Selena Gomez
Those are positive songs.
6 thoughts on “All About That Skinny Shaming”
Thank you for this. I was dumped by a fat activist friend when I was suffering from anorexia because I was “triggering”. I was followed around the mall by strangers and told I was ugly and I should just kill myself. I was turned in to CPS as a potential threat to my children because I “might pass out”- and put on 30 medication combinations for bipolar disorder (that I don’t have), forcefed through a tube, and subjected to ECT. I lost 3 years of my life to “treatment” (committed twice)- when I had been just as sick when I was obese and left alone. My therapist toldme I looked like “a flat chested little boy”. People just don’t know.
Kate, I’m so sorry you went through this. People can be be unbelievably cruel and they think they’re being “helpful” or “caring”. Please take good care of yourself and know that you are beautiful and worthy.
Does it really matter what size we all are? it only matters what your intellect has to offer.
As someone who’s been overweight her entire life, I was made to believe that I would never be accepted by society because of my weight. Skinny people always made fun of me and I was led to believe that “thin is in” and “fat’s not where it’s at”. The fact that Meghan Trainor came up with a song that defends the underdog is only offensive to people who are insecure in their own skin. You’ve had your years, skinny people, let us fatties have our day.